The Ups and Downs of Perfectionism

It's time to recognize the upside of perfectionism.

We often use the word "perfectionist" to connote someone who wants everything done perfectly and is very demanding and critical of others. The perfectionist is viewed as uncompromising, even obsessive, and may have difficulty with interpersonal relationships as a result.

Yet perfectionists are often very intelligent, idealistic people. Their perfectionism stems from their high expectations of themselves. Not realizing that they are above the norm, they assume that everyone can reach the heights to which they aspire. If they would recognize how unusual they are and be more forgiving of themselves, they could do the same for others.

Perfectionists (and I do not mean those who are truly obsessive-compulsive) have innate abilities which they are not using in a positive way. By understanding themselves, they will be able to celebrate their strengths and work on their weaknesses.

They will learn to take pride in their best, imperfect selves.