The Pleasure of a Set Table

Would you like your children to learn how to cook? Would you like them to assist you in making supper? Then ask them to set the table.

The competent child takes pride in his or her work. If you ask them to do something within their capability level, then they will be able to finish the task and attain a sense of completion. That achievement brings tremendous satisfaction, irrespective of its objective level of difficulty.

So if you want your child to volunteer for more difficult tasks, do the following:

1. Start young and ask them to do something that they will enjoy doing because they've
a) seen others do it;
b) they've never done it before; and
c) it's a challenge, i.e., something slightly above their previous achievements.

2. Offer your assistance and companionship. Don't make it a solo performance. Give them positive attention while they are in the midst of execution.

3. Praise the finished product.

4. Let them try it out again, but don't make it "their job." Vary your requests.

The most important part of your job is to motivate your youngster to undertake responsibility. Don't make it onerous. Keep it fun.