What kind of WIFE are you?

Are you a woman who is trying to change her husband? That's the typical stereotype and it does describe many of us. How did we get into this position and how - if we want - can we get out of it?

A woman who tends to be a "fix-it" person may want to fix everything and everyone around her. The problem with that stance is that other people, unlike objects, do not want to be fixed!

So we are destined to fail at our objective.

Instead we're liable to create acrimony and poor marital relations. So why do we persist?

We may have the fantasy that 1) our husbands will become our Romeos and 2) our nagging, reminders, and persistence will have an effect.

Neither is true. Because every person has a need for autonomy, he will choose how he wants to live. Moreover, his self-image is at stake. Criticism of any kind threatens that self-image.

If you want to change your interactions and create more harmonious relations, then focus on yourself. Learn how to increase your happiness, take responsibility for yourself, and develop compassion for the human being beside you. You may find that you like him after all.